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Palmay, Richard Edward

Palmay, Richard Edward

February 14, 1964 — December 5, 2020

Richard E. Palmay, former Kansas City firefighter and long-time Kansas City resident, passed away from a self-inflicted gunshot wound, Saturday, December 5, 2020. He had struggled with his demons for many years.

Richard was born in Houston, TX and moved to Kansas City, Missouri at age 2, where he spent the remainder of his life. He was a graduate of Center Senior High School, class of 1982. He attended University of Missouri - Kansas City for two years. He had a passion for classic cars, and was proud of his 1970 Oldsmobile Cutlass convertible that won many awards over the years. He was also proud to serve as a Kansas City firefighter for 17 years, counting many firemen among his closest friends.

In the last five years he was a member of the BPOE KC Elks #26, serving as an officer. He loved to spend his time with his fellow Lodge members, and just as he did when on the Fire Department, he often did kitchen duty, which he loved to do. He also donated many volunteer hours at the Lodge, painting and installing flooring.

He was the sole proprietor of A+ Plus Mudjacking, building the business from nothing into a very successful enterprise. He was proud of his business and loved his employees.

But his greatest accomplishments, in his opinion, were his children, Nikolas Kane Palmay, 28, also of Kansas City, and Marissa Leigh Palmay Odum, 22, a student at Southern Missouri State University, who currently resides in Joplin. His children are deeply saddened by their father’s passing.

He also leaves behind his beloved wife, Mary Palmay, with whom he had planned to spend his last years in their Puerto Rican home. He is also survived by his sister Christie Palmay Dotolo, of Austin, TX and her children, 1st Lt. Richard K. Smith, US Army, Kaiserslautern, and Jozsef L. Smith, of San Marcos TX as well as his mother, Holley Palmay, of Lakeway, TX.

His family is humbly grateful for all the love and support shown to them in this difficult time, and know it’s a tribute to how much Richard was loved by everyone he knew. His infectious smile and sense of humor, as well as his well-developed sense of compassion, endeared him to everyone he met.

The family plans a private service due to Covid restrictions. In the summer, they hope to have a celebration of life, where everyone who loves Richard can be together to remember him. The family also requests that in lieu of flowers, donations be sent to the National Alliance for Mental Illness.

Service Information

The family plans a private service due to Covid restrictions. In the summer, they hope to have a celebration of life, where everyone who loves Richard can be together to remember him. The family also requests that in lieu of flowers, donations be sent to the National Alliance for Mental Illness.

Palmay, Richard Edward's Guestbook

Richard did a lot of painting for us through the years and his work was impeccable. He was a joy to be around and we are not surprised that he was such a dedicated family man. We are so saddened to hear that he struggled so much through the years. May his memory always be a blessing and may he be at peace.

Bruce and Gayle Krigel

We will miss Richard so much, I can't think about him without crying. He always seemed happy and was always there to help. I just don't understand, guess God needed him more than us. We will always be here be for you Mary

Ralph and Barbara Osborn

We will miss Richard and his dry sense of humor. Being a part of the Palmay family has been a blessing for us. We are truly saddened by this loss.

Hope and Damon

Devastating news. So many hearts are broken. Richard was one of the kindest, caring, genuine person, I have ever met. He greeted me every time I saw him with a big smile , pat on shoulder and sincerely asked “how is everything with you”!!! I had no idea of his struggles. I hope he knew how we all cared about him. Prayers for you Mary, his children, mother and extended family. Richard will be sorely missed. He made a difference. May he rest now in the hands of our father.

PJ Baker

Mary, May you and Richard's children, Mom, and family find comfort in knowing that Richard is now in the loving arms of our Father, never to feel pain again. May you find comfort and peace during this difficult time. Chip and I will forever miss our friend. Know that I’m here for you.”

patty campbell

Mary, Nikolas and Marissa, you have been in my thoughts daily since hearing about. Richard was such a pleasant guy at Lodge #26. He always had a smile and a pat on the shoulder when he spoke to us. He was always on call to do whatever ask of him at the Lodge. He was in the kitchen preparing food for any occasion when needed. We already miss him just knowing he won't be around the Lodge. I only hope he knew how many friends he had. May he Rest In Peace now.

Judy Ball

I knew Richard since Elementary school and he always seemd to have a smile and a positive attitude. Although we lost touch for some years we were able to reconnect through Facebook. Fond memories of him will be with be always. My prayers for peace are with his family. RiP dearest Richard 😇

Michelle Miller DeMora

Richard always had a kind word to say, even on days it was plain to see he was suffering. May he be received in celebration and be allowed to rest in peace.

Jim Werst

Lovely! I've only unknown Richard for a few years through the Elks Lodge but he was one of the best. He cared about others and showed that all the time......he loved to laugh and I can't remember when he didn't have a smile on his face. You ask for help and he was the 1st to say "YES" The stories he would tell were funny and he loved to joke around but when it became time to be serious he was......devoted to what he was doing. He sure talked about his son Nikolas and daughter Marissa all the time.....was so excited that Nikolas got his pilot license and that Marissa had just gotten married and loved her job in Joplin, Missouri. For his sister and mother he would never trade them in for anyone else but most of all the LOVE OF HIS LIFE Mary who they were crazy for each other. He always talked about you and showed me on his phone under your number the words LOV OF MY LIFE. Thank you for taking care of Richard and sharing him with the rest of the world. Richard we will miss you!

todd spencer Miller

We are praying for Mary and his family at this tragic time and pray for them to receive God’s comfort. He is greatly missed.

Tom and Jeri Brown

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